Getting back control

Please advise me on how to persuade my boyfriend to give up his hair piece. I can not stand it. I find bald men sexy. I have told him this. He probably thinks I’m saying this just to persuade him. Please give me some advice. Wigs are unnatural and anti aesthetic. I care about him and want him to feel free of the burden of wearing a wig. I am embarrassed to have my friends meet him and realize he lacks the confidence to be himself.

I say to all you lucky guys, shave it off. Its actually a pretty sexy look and girls like it more than what you would think. Besides, you shouldn’t let hair be your identity. My very beautiful niece’s husband is balding and she just hates it when he lets his hair grow out, she would never critisize him for it; but he knows she just loves his bald hair. Give it a try, I think you may be surprised!

For Mr. Michael Rush…I do understand what you are going thru…I started losing my hair when I was starting College and believe me, it really affected my self confidence, I didn’t even wanted to go outside my house without a cap/hat, anyways… long story short and to try to help you…when I decided to finally shave my head, it did look good (and even better with a nicely done beard cut!!) but I still felt unsecure when meeting new people and when my old friend see my new “look”, I would think “what are they going to think about my bald head?”…that was stupid! You just have to me mature enough to realize that a bald guy is what you are… and if somebody doesn’t like it is their problem! Do not feel bad if somebody tells you that you’re bald! Isn’t that the true?! Just relax and enjoy your life…stop thinking about what other people think!…mmm I don’t know if I made my point but there is my advise anyways.

Firstly I must say that this website is great especially for the young dudes who are concerned about their hair loss. I am 27 this year and I have been clean shaven now for a few months, (clean shaven as in razors and shaving cream).Before it was just a number 1 cut at the hairdressers. But the hair loss thing started when I was 21- killed me, didn’t even have enough confidence to go to uni classes anymore and dropped out. (but I did return when i was 25)

So in saying that i think that it does take some time to get over it and eventually accept it. Sometimes i am down about it but i like to get on the internet and yahoo or youtube ‘famous bald dudes’ for inspiration, and the list is impressive- Kelly Slater, Bruce Willis, Andre Agassi etc. But I find some comfort in the idea that it is becoming fashionable because of people like this, chicks (especially older chicks) dig it and accepting something like this and in turn embracing it is not only a relieving feeling but a proud one too. People who go to advanced hair, get wigs etc are a let down to themselves and the bald race. I say get up in the morning and say to yourself when you look in the mirror ‘ I make this look good “.

I have always had a buzzcut since highschool but started to see my hairline run away from my forehead at 19. I grew my hair out to try to cover it up and it worked for a little while, but it is starting to look pretty bad. I am a senior in college and have seen my confidence go from extremely high as a freshman to awkward and shy around girls unless I am wearing a hat. I have considered shaving my head for the past couple of years, but have never found the courage. I was actually online looking at different options for hairloss solutions when I ran across this site. I just want to thank the creator of the site and all the participants. I think I have read almost every comment and I must say that it has made me feel alot better about my situation. I’m going to join the bald club this weekend and am actually starting to get excited about it. Thanks again…

Excellent story. I also second the author. You will NOT regret getting rid of this thing. What do you get in return? Confidence, your self estee and freedom.

Hi guys,
I’m a 32 year old . Four years ago I took the step to shave off my hair on Christmas day.

I used to comb it over, and obsess with my hair. I often grew very depressed, wishing for some new treatment, or for surgery to be rid of my receding hair line.

I often felt down. I was also very paranoid that people were looking at my hair as I used to comb it over -centre part to cover the receding temples… when the wind blew I was in big trouble.
I never went out to bars or clubs, was extremely shy with girls and always wore a hat out of the house for the majority of my 20’s. My cap was my best friend… it was also my worst enemy. I was chained to it like a chastity belt… I hated it.

I can remember the times where I feared walking out of buildings or drafty areas without my cap. All I wanted was to be able to walk free without my comb over from messing up, which was next to impossible. I would rush to the toilet upon entry within an indoor environment to check on my hair… it was ridiculous… everyday for almost 6 years.

The day finally came when I bit the bullet. I had ENOUGH! I went to my friends house and he shaved off all my hair.
It was a number 2 and there was still residual hair…. I couldn’t believe how i looked. I was shocked. The weekend came and i decided to shave off all my hair with a razor, which I did.
It took some getting used to, but with time and regularity, people and you get used to it…

For the past 4 years, I have been nothing but Social and Confident. Comfortable and Grateful for the freedom that I have. Shaving my head was like the shackles had finally been removed.
I have been dating women, many of of my friends have commented how much better i look with a shaved head, I’ve even got a bit of a tan on top, which looks very good…
I have found that I wear attractive clothes and work out. I am a lot more healthy, mentally and physically, outgoing and confident. I have not lost my compassion for others though. That is something that I will never lose.

I highly recommend shaving your head, to allow yourself to be free.
God Bless you All.

Hey Guys, Great Site

Started thinning on top at around 18/19, some people were saying it to me but i never took any notice of it, didn’t really start to properly freak until i was around 21, and boy did i freak, my 60 year old dad has a head full of hair, his dad died in his 70’s with a full head of hair, why was this happening to me, my life is over, i can never do anything ever again etc etc, so after about two days of freaking, i shaved my head to a grade 2, loved it, actually suited me better than having loads of hair, I’ve never even considered a piece or a transplant, it’s just not for me, I’m turning 26 shortly and my only problem is i have become a slave to regaine over the past 4 years, i’ve always kept my buzzed very short but have used it to try and stave off the bald spot, recently ive started realising than i can’t keep doing it forever as it’s started to lose it’s effectiveness, and i’m ok with it, i’m better than ok with it, if you keep trying to fight it or cover it up, then hair loss is a problem, if you accept it and embrace it it’s not a problem, have you ever seen a guy walking around with a proud bald head and thought, “God, he could use a good comb-over”, it got me thinking, back when i was 17/18, i use to play football, there was this guy on our team who was a few years older than me, maybe around 21/22, everytime girls would show up to practice they would be all over him, he was totally bald, but he was in good shape and confident, but what intrested me thinking back on this is that, back then the fact that he was bald never came into it, i never thought, “wow, he can have women all over him even though he’s bald”, i never thought about his hair or lack thereof, i thought, i wish i could be like that, and this is when i had a full mane, the only people who think about hairloss and look at yours are other people who have hairloss, that its, walk proud my follically-challenged brethren

I am 20 years old and baldness has taken over my life. I recently dropped out of school with baldness being one of the main factors. I don’t want to leave my house or meet anyone new because of this. I used to have long blonde hair that all the girls loved and gave me my confidence but now it is falling out and only getting worse. I have a fear of no one accepting me and people making fun of me behind my back. I want to shave my head but know I will get laughs and my confidence will get even lower )if thats possible) baldness has ruined my life and i feel i will never get it back.

someone help

Hi Guys,

I started balding around 17/18. I only started to really notice it once I was about 19 and i would get comments from friends such as “dude, whats going on with your hair?”. I became very self concious and would either spend hours in the bathroom trying to exact the perfect comb forward or don a hat every time i left the front door of my house. I started clipping my hair (number 2 grade) in my early 20’s and then finally decided to shave with a razor about 12 months ago (at the age of 25). I still leave a bit on top (no 1 or 2 grade) just to give my head a more aesthetic look however the time will soon come when that is no longer an option. To be perfectly honest i still prefer to wear a hat when im out, partly because hats suit me but also because a bald head does attract attention and im very introverted and shy and would rather wear a hat and attract little to no attention at all. As far as the women go i’ve had mixed responses, most people say that im a good looking and handsome guy and tend to compliment me on my smile or my eyes so my baldness doesnt tend to rate a mention which is a good thing. I just encourage you all to express yourself in the most authentic and genuine way possible, that might mean shaving your head or maintaining whatever hair you have left, just be true to yourself and the true expression of your identity.

Cheers

Matt

Hi guys, I am new to the site and find some of your stories inspiring. I need some advice and here is my situation. I started losing my hair in patches after high school, so it is not a typical balding pattern. I have been wearing a rug for a long time and the piece pretty much covers my whole head. It looks ok and even my wife says the same. However, it is becoming a burden to me having to take it off, put it on …etc. and it takes a long time to get it right in the morning. Forget swimming, and windy days I try not to stand outside for too long.

So I am thinking of just going bald. But the way I lost my hair there are patches on my head that still have hair. I tried shaving my head as close to the root as possible but you can still see the black dots where there is hair. Also, the area where the tape attaches the rug to my head is lighter color than the rest of my head.

My question is, base on my scenario how can I “prepare” to go bald so the first day I go out I would look ok? How can I obtain even color throughout my scalp? How can I shave complete bald so nobody can see the black dots(roots)?

Thanks,

Duncan

I have been wearing a very good hair system for since I was about 20 — I am now 45. I can swim, be in the wind, etc without any problems. Everytime I thing of going natural, I go for a system renewal and then feel fine. I am a very public figure. So, going from hair to smooth is a huge transition. It seems it would be easier and simpler to go naturale but then again my “look” has become somewhat of a trademark of who I am publicly. Looking for advice from anyone how may have been in a similar situation. It would be long process of transition to go naturale… the system I have now works but has to be redone every two weeks and it is a big expense. Any advice or experience would help! Thanks!!!!

Hi ,I have been loosing my hair since my late 20s I went thin on top first I saw an advert in the paper for hair thickening spray I used it and thought wow problem solved ! used it for years then hair building Toppik. , my wife and kids new this , then my hair got too thin and it was no use shit I thought , what am I going to do ? .I went online and had about three systems from hair direct ,at first I thought they were great I suddenly got all my hair back but had to dye my own hair as I was grey by now .at work I wore a cap so they only would get a quick peek at my hair so I got away with it but when out without my cap any body who knew me would look strange at me , even my brother I never told but he new I was receding now I had a full head of non grey hair ? every one knew .at first I would laugh to myself as I pretended to not notice I was being scanned ,but after a while it made me paranoid my wife and sons had no clue it was a system till my son said to me your hair looks like a hair piece , I confessed to my wife and kids it was a rug my older son said I am not surprised ,my wife was a bit mad I was blowing money on wigs , how bald are you? they were shocked when I showed them as any hair I had on top was now gone three years ago . I don’t like to go out with mates from work as they will know its fake , it has made me a prisoner . I said to my wife I am sick of being fake and want to go bald . how do I tell the family I am realy bald so my idea was to put on an old balding rug thinning on top and make it look like I lost my hair in a year , its working and im telling people I am going bald by showing them my balding crown when I take my hat off , I am about half way there by Christmas I will be bald 2015 , that’s my plan or would you just tell the truth and rip of the rug tell every body then shave your head and be done with it ? what would you do ? any advice please

I’m 67 yr old. Been wearing hair since 32 yr. 35 yrs. Was advised early on that thinner is better. My advise is “don’t loose yourself in this piece”. I don’t sleep, shower or mow grass in mine. I’m retired and when I worked (outside sales) I had 2 to give a day off. They would last over 2 yrs easy. I order mine online and send in template and hair samples. Order extra light to light density and recede the hairline befitting my age. I will not live w/o my hair. It is just a personal preference. It makes that much difference in how I feel and look. On Ebay there are several companys (china) that sell custom units in the 100-150$ range. There feedback is usually in 90-100%. With ebays guarantee you cant hardly go wrong. Remember if you wear 24/7 they don’t last but a few months even the heavier density and stronger mono bases.

Guys, some helps please, I’ve finally decide to get rid of the rug, go on hols 4 days in Dubai and tan the head.
I’ve been wearing the rug for 7 years but for the usual reasons fed up and now ready to press the button.

So my question is will 4 days in the hot sun be enough for the redness to die down and the scalp to brown sufficiently with my face. I think so and so does my hairdresser but I would like honest feedback from those who have been there.
Many thanks!